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Why Woman Appear Humble Even When They Shouldn’t
Men don’t see it this way. The irony: women probably aren’t talking enough.
“Shut up! Women don’t talk when are talking”
This was a phrase I repeatedly heard from my elders during family meetings. With time I accepted this behavior as normal.
I wasn’t surprised that this attitude existed, after I moved to the States, but it wasn’t intensively used as it was in Nigeria.
When women speak out — to promote positive ideas or solutions — their voices go unheard.
When I worked in a male-dominated industry as a data entry specialist at a tech company, my manager did not listen to my input on an issue with making a video presentation.
I repeated myself over and over again and was completely ignored as if I was not present in the room. Until a man on my team repeated exactly what I had said.
He was praised and applauded for coming up with a solution. But then he pointed out that the idea was mine and that he merely spoke up because no one was taking my advice. The manager didn’t like that the guy had referred to me, a woman, as the original idea contributor.
My girlfriend is a female aircraft mechanic and works on mid-size private jets. She’s the one I talk to when I hit my car because she’s so damn smart.
Her senior manager called her fish brain during an in-job training because she had offered a suggestion on a technical problem the pilots complained of.
I’ve seen my female coworkers treated worse by male customers, and the managers did nothing. Rather they were blamed for pissing off the customers.
Many men are socialized to believe a man’s word over that of a woman, especially when it comes to stereotypical men’s topics.
I can’t stand such men. It makes me so damn mad when I’m brushed off or ignored because of my gender. I pretty much just walk away and actively avoid such men.
Is biology behind misogyny
Misogyny is a psychological technique aimed at controlling women and legally or socially excluding women from full citizenship.
