What an angle? The person who cares less have more control? This is so true. We miss the concept of emotional dependence.

By relying on Steve for happy Lisa became an emotional burden to her husband. Most relationships suffer because of emotional dependence.

When we become so attached to someone it's easy to neglect how demanding we are, but by redirecting our attention to other activity that does not involve our s/o, we build healthier boundaries in the relationship.