Sounds like 20% of men marriage doesn't favor. Having a selfish and controlling wife isn't unheard of. And like I tell women, I will tell you the same thing, "get out if she's not making an effort to support your career or building your home collectively."

No one deserves a trashy spouse. And I say so irrespective of gender. As for divorce settlement being against you, I believe you will weigh your peace of mind to the hell you are living in.

I have heard some men get away with alimony if your attorney does a good job. Also if your children are of independent age, you can request your child support gets deducted from your paycheck and deposited into a separate account by the State and will be awarded to your child/ren when they are 16.