So your husband was mature at 24 and he thought himself those values you saw in him before you married him, right?
I'm glad you said children need structure, somewhere to start from. Who will give them that structure when you want them to learn from their mistakes?
Well, go and ask your husband. I'm sure he had a role model you instilled those values you saw him before you married him.
You keep contradicting yourself right and left which makes me confuse on why you are parent.
If you are suppose to be the structure, then why criticize me for doing the same for my child?
My daughter keeping a secret from me doesn't justify your criticism nor does it make me a bad parent.
All children keep secrets from their parents. That you haven't discovered the secrets your children are keeping doesn't mean they are not.
I bet you allowed your children to start dating early. That's cool. Our parenting style must not be the same.
I just read an article yesterday about a 14 year getting shot defending his 13 year old girlfriend. We see 15 years old carrying guns and shooting people, sexually harrowing people online.
Yes, let's allow our children do what they want. Let's turn a blind eye as the learn from their mistakes.
Isn’t this parenting style causing everyone more harm than good?
If you are a good parent you should know when to draw the lines between being a friend and a leader to your child.
You used your children as an example forgetting their father was there to make those decisions you couldn't make.
Does your children tell their father everything they tell you? Of course not. Children are only open to the soft parent who doesn’t question their errors.
I'm the father and mother to my daughter. Yes, I'm both the soft and hard parent. So don’t compare my parenting style with yours. I play both the father and mother role to my child.
Today, the US has he highest number of fatherless children and most of them are delinquents. These children were raises by single mothers who allowed their children to learn by their mistake like you.
Highest number of people living with depression are between 18-29. Even with all the softness mothers use to raise their children why ate majority sad?
You should be lucky your children had their father because if you had raised them alone I doubt they would be responsible as they as (if they are) with this attitude of yours.
It's not normal to think romantic relationship is mandatory at any age. I don't regret my decisions in life.
If I can make my daughter live a better path than I did, I will do so 100 times over. She may not like my advices now, but she will when she becomes a parent.
Read up what your soft parenting does to children in the links. Millennials have ruined their children's lives with soft parenting.
Most parents are still struggling with their childhood trauma and have no clue what being a parent entails. We need to do better if we want the future generations to have a life at all.
https://nypost.com/2024/06/27/us-news/wyo-teen-killed-protecting-girlfriend-was-held-down-and-stabbed/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=nypost
https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db379.htm#:~:text=The%20percentage%20of%20adults%20who%20experienced%20any%20symptoms%20of%20depression,or%20severe%20symptoms%20of%20depression.
Edited: I'm flattered that you took your time to write 3 posts about me, lecturing me about something you no nothing about.
Being a parent means you get to be the bad guy sometimes. And if you cannot accept that you're not just a friend to your child but a leader and leaders are not liked all the time, then you are not a good parent.
