People will always judge and criticise other. It not a feminist thing. That women judge their fellow women has nothing to do with feminism. They are simply horrible individuals who support feminist movement. Feminism doesn’t automatically erase bad personalities.
When your fellow woman criticises you, direct her critic back to her as a woman not as a feminist. When you general bad behaviours from female feminist it give a the wrong idea of what feminism is about.
Just like we give bad image to politicians because of their attitude to manipulate the law. Whereas in reality politicians are law-abiding citizens seeking power and there are good ones who uphold the values they swore by.