Oh my! You just reminded me of one guy I used to flirt with. He was so nice to me and would praise me for being and industrious and independent. According to him, he likes women who don’t feed off men as I never demanded a thing from him.

It was easy for me to grade him as a feminist until he started showing his masculinity. I called out his sexist comments when I see them and made it clear to him that his a patriarch. He got offended and starting bashing me that I was too head strong and that I should learn to bend a little because I’m a woman. Of course I ended things with him. But at that time I never knew what covert sexism was until now. Thanks for this insight.