Now you are twisting your position to get sympathy from me. You should admit you judged single women harshly and you tried to ignore the dangers toxic masculinity does to women.

I'm sorry you had an abusive wife. But that doesn't change my topic of conversation. Abuse should not be justified by any means.

However, if you look at the statistics on divorce rates you will see that women bear the heavier burden in marriages.

This doesn't mean men don’t suffer the burden too. The adjective there is "Heavier" and the statistics are there to prove it.

Take a read and enlighten yourself instead of judging from an individual perspective.

https://www.thejimenezlawfirm.com/why-women-initiate-divorce-more-often-than-men/

https://www.wf-lawyers.com/divorce-statistics-and-facts/

What's annoying is that men always get defensive by saying "not all men" does this or that when a generalized statement calls out toxic male culture.

For goodness sake, we know there are responsible men out there, but that is only a small fracture compared to the toxic irresponsible ones.

Any when you jump into defense instead of acknowledge the problem you make the problem more difficult to solve.