No way will I allow another woman to run my household. Whether it's my mother or mother in law.
They had their time running their household, they won’t do that for me. As for the girly clothes, the woman needs to lay down ground rules for her mother in law.
If she continues to interfere on how she raises her child, she should send her back to her husband’s house or her other children's house.
Some parents and grannies act way too entitled with their children that it makes my cringe.