Malaika, I like to point out my position clearly, "dating a man who loves you more doesn’t mean you have no attraction for the man." I believe I explained that with examples in my story.

For you to be in a healthy relationship, you have to be attracted and even be in love with the person. But your love shouldn't surpass that of the man.

The problem with your relationship is that you not only had no attraction for the men, you also mistook their attraction for love.

Yes, it amazing to be with someone you love, but do they love you in return? This is where women confuse themselves with a man’s intention. It's a different thing for you to love someone but they have to be in the same boat as you for that happiness to last.

As for your father's version of men and their attraction, I do believe women are getting pass that ideology. Now women are more picky with their choice of men and often times, they don't pick a handsome face with no money.

And yes, women are still making choices based on the man's capacity to provide. So to each woman her choice.

I don’t expect a one fit all in every relationship, but from what I have seen in long relationships of over 40, the man always loves the woman more.