I have a problem with this statement. The fact that men think they are the final say ALWAYS is why women take advantage of being negligent. Family decision is rested on BOTH you and your wife and not just you.

Secondly, your attitude towards parenting has made your wife complacent. She should be as involved in the kids as much as you do. But if you aren't contributing financially, then don't expect a 50/50 ball game here. The same goes for stay home wives.

I'm happy men do see that the day to day caring for kids is a full time job. Something most men don't appreciate in their wives. And stop sounding like an anomaly because everyone's family is different. What's abnormal in raising your kids? This is not the 20s. You men should accept your responsibility in the family and not just financially.

Society has made men irresponsible that they see their duties as Help to the woman. What you are doing is raising your kids.

Stop sounding like you are helping your wife raise her kids. Now you know how it feels to shoulder the burden of raising kids? Now you know why women complain or seek divorce when their husbands don't do their duties?

If you feel overwhelmed by doing everything, then communicate with your wife and INSIST she does her part too with house chores. Raising a child is not just about throwing in the money. It takes work and time and both can be draining for one person.