I don't argue your points. I like the idea that women should pay their fair share on what the eat on date.

But, it MUST be agreed upon when the moment the day and venue of the date is chosen.

We were raised to have men do the chasing. Not all women have adopted the new shift in dating culture. So the side to a gentleman does is to tell her before hand that she will be paying for her own meal.

You are right women would rather not initiate dates if she cannot afford to pay her bill. Which leaves men dating only women who are capable of financing herself.

Like you rightfully said, it eliminates the opportunist who go on dates for free meals and women get only date men they vibe with.

So you see, this works in favour of both men and women.

Let the one who initiates the date pay. And if the woman won't ask the man out, the man should let the woman know she will be paying her own share of whatever she eats.

I mean if men are not cowards, why are afraid they of getting fewer women who want to go on dates them? It should not be difficult to have the conversation of who pays before the actual meeting.

If men think first dates is just to get to know the woman and don't wish to spend recklessly. It's understandable.

However, you can get to know someone without seeing them face to face. That's what videos and chats are for.

I like to spend a week or two week on calls, chats, videos before the fixing a date if I like a guy. This helps to eliminate the players from the serious guy.

Now the problem I see is men who want to bang any woman they meet want to do so at no cost. This is why they get pissed when women don't agree to pay their share on dates he initiated.

If you think about it, what easier way to two kill two birds with one stone if not to invite multiple random women on dates and have each pay her bill and fuck her too.

Please if you can't afford to spend on random women in the name of date, chat her, do face time and get to know her.

And if eventually you decide you want to go on a date, tell her she's responsible for her bill the moment you set a day for the meet. This dating rule is new to women.

We need to get used to being the chasers and hunters and men need to get used to being the chased and priced for the new dating culture to work.

Thank you!