How is it blackmailing? You think women enjoy overwhelming stress in relationships? If he gets a man cave, she too deserves a her cave too. It's called fairness, mate.

Men who crave leadership roles in relationships are blind to the reality that what they do is replicated by their followers. So yes, good leader leads by example. But no. You don't want a follower, you want a slave. Well, a smart women will not follow dummies who treat them poorly.