6 Facts You Must Know Before You Date a Single Mum
Lessons from guys who have dated one.
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Not too long ago, around mid-February, one of my juniors approached me, seeking advice on what it was like to date a family man. He assumed since I was a single mom and date dads too often, I was the best person to advise on such a matter.
To be honest, I was flattered by his sincerity and forwardness. But I was also embarrassed to learn my dating style is quite perceptible to other people.
I tried to breach the subject as sensitive as I could because I could see this young man was already in love with a single mom, and he wasn’t looking for advice to talk him out of it. It was more like he needed someone to give him a “go” signal.
As much as I would like to leave out the bad, I couldn’t. He needed to know what he was bargaining for to save him from the usual “had I known” we single moms are fed up with. I also wanted to save the single mom he was interested in from the headache of dating an immature man.
As single parenting becomes more and more common, many stereotypes about single mothers have become increasingly inaccurate.
Much of what people assume about the typical single mom is false or ridiculous. That’s why I’ve collected these facts from men who have dated single mothers to help you understand what it’s like to date one, whether you are suited for such a commitment or not.
Can a single mother find love again?
Most men shy away from single moms. They think single mom’s are hot-headed and do not care for anyone else but their children, which is understandable.
Because single mothers spend more time raising their child/children, some men assume they don’t have time to date.
Men who want a less structured life fear that single mothers may not be able to be spontaneous in the relationship. Time with romantic partners may require extra planning. If the children are not with her, spontaneity may be possible but not always predictable.
But despite the increasing fear about dating single mothers, Plenty of Fish dating site has recorded that single mom’s are finding love online 10% more than the…