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SEXUALITY | RELATIONSHIP
5 Tips to Heighten Your Sexual Energy and Feel Positive about Yourself
How do you become more sexually attracted to someone?
Trying to force a connection with someone you are not attracted to often leads to disaster.
I was once in a situationship with a guy I loved and respected but I wasn’t attracted to him. We dated for while and it was very awkward.
He was humble, well-cultured, and sarcastic most times but when I think of kissing him, I feel a pit in my stomach.
We have known each of a long time as friends. When he asked me to be his girlfriend, every inch of my muscle screamed “no” but on second thought I was like “we are friends anyway how bad can it be?”
We started sneaking around at first. We kept the relationship on the down low from our friends. I told myself if we keep our relationship private we could make it work.
Unfortunately, that didn’t help with the awkwardness. Each time he was around me, I found one more reason to stay away from him. Eventually, I couldn’t continue dragging him further when I knew we were heading nowhere considering the efforts he was putting in to make me fall in love with him.
